What a weekend!

Getting into the swing of the “new normal” has been a learning experience for both Patty and I.  We’re finding the “new normal” is pretty similar to the “old normal” with a much better appreciation of life.  I know that sounds a little cliché but it’s true. You suddenly have an appreciation for so many things you used to take for granted.  I know I’m feeling it and I’m positive Patty is feeling that “appreciation” as I am, times ten!   Facing the possibility of death is without a doubt one of the biggest gut checks a person can ever ponder.  When you’re in the throes of it, you weigh all the “what if’s” and try go forward a day at a time.  Sometimes you need to take it an hour at a time.  This is all behind us for the time being.  It still lingers now and then, but we’re both trying to live our lives the best we can and take in as much as possible!

 With that said… Patty is doing really really well.  My wife is back!  She is just go go go everyday.  Avery keeps her busy and by the end of the day, Patty is whipped!  She still has a healthy appetite and somehow gains no weight!  I don’t know how she does it!   I need to take a picture of her hair.  It’s coming in but it’s a slow process.  I’m guessing it’s about a quarter of an inch in length.  I was joking with her yesterday morning saying she woke up with “bed head!”  Hey… it made her laugh! 

This was quite an eventful weekend for us.  We’ll start with the big news… Our daughter Kristi had her baby Saturday afternoon!  Yes… Kennedy Claire Davis… 8 pounds, 6 ounces of pure preciousness!  It was a long night and day for Kristi and Ryan but the payoff was Kennedy!  Patty and I now have three grandchildren, all girls!  We’re good with that!  

These pictures were taken shortly after her birth.  Look at that thick head of hair!  She looks so much like Kristi when she was born.

Little Kennedy had some minor issues when she was born and is being closely monitored in the NICU at Sharp Hospital.  She’ll be fine and hopefully Kristi and Ryan will be able to bring her home soon! 

Then, we have other news… we found a house and are opening escrow today!  It’s been quite an exhaustive search.  We must have looked at 40+ homes over the past month!  House hunting is pretty discouraging!  Prices… location… etc.  We feel we were pretty lucky to find this home… not a short sale… not a foreclosure!  We’re really excited to have a real “home” again.  Sure the condo worked, but after a while it was getting pretty cramped.  The new house has over 1700 square feet and 4 bedrooms.  We’ll be able to have guests again!!!  Pack your bags and come on over!  We’ll even have a real back yard again!  I never thought I’d be looking forward to yard work, but I can’t wait!  I’ve actually missed it!   Here are a few pictures…

We’re scheduled to close right around April 15th (Tax Day!) and if things work out right, we’ll  be moving in, that weekend!

Patty predicted that 2011 was going to be a great year.  So far she’s been right on track!  Things are looking up!

Sorry for the delay!

Patty and our close friend, Becky, this past weekend.

Over the past 10 months, I’ve read several blogs from other husbands whose wives have been diagnosed with breast cancer.  Each blog had something in common… the moment their wife finished their “treatment phase” the blogs immediately stopped.  I was disappointed when they ended.  I wanted to know more.  More about how they were doing.  What was going on after treatment?  I told myself I wouldn’t do that with my blog.  I would continue after the “treatment” phase.  Now I understand why they stopped.  Once treatment ends, your life changes… dramatically!  It’s the “new normal.”   Things almost get back to the way they used to be.  To blog, it’s almost boring.  It’s just that our life seems like it’s been controlled with a remote… we went so long on the “pause” button and now someone has hit “fast forward X-4!”  It’s like we’re trying to make up for lost time!  So, on that note, I apologize for getting a little relaxed with the blogging.  I’ll do my best to keep this going.  We still have a lot ahead of us.  We’re not through with this just yet.

First and foremost, Patty is doing amazingly well!  I can remember many days when Patty was going through her treatment that I never thought I’d see her to the point where she is today!   She’s one tough woman!  My guess is that she has pretty much 100% of her energy back.  I can’t keep her down!  She watches Avery four days a week.  She tries to Jazzercise three times a week.  She takes long walks nearly everyday and she’s starting to train for the Susan Komen 3-Day walk in November.  It’s funny… I get home from work and I’m tired and just want to hang out at home.  Not Patty!  As she says, she is cooped up in the condo all day.  She wants to go out!

We’ve learned that human body is amazing!  Amazing in the sense of how it heals. As you are aware, the chemo really did a number on Patty.  I can’t think of words to accurately describe what I witnessed Patty go through!  Patty has told me that she didn’t realize how sick she was until she started feeling better.  I don’t recall if I mentioned this in any previous post, but her incision from the mastectomy in late July had never completely healed, mainly because of the chemo.  Here it is the end of February, six months since the mastectomy and 11 weeks since her last infusion and it’s finally nearly healed!  She meets with the reconstruction surgeon every couple of weeks now and he’s pretty happy with her progress.  He’s just waiting for the incision to completely heal so he can start the reconstruction process.  It shouldn’t be too long.  Now that she’s through the treatment phase, you can see changes in Patty every day.  Her eyelashes and eyebrows were the first to grow and now they’re nearly back to normal.  This was followed by the hair on her legs and then her head.  She’s got a great layer of growth going on her head.  It may not be long, but it’s thick!

We’re learning to deal with the “new normal” a little at a time.  We’re not even sure what the “new normal” is!  We do know that even though Patty has gotten a temporary clean bill of health, the threat of reoccurrence could happen at any time.  This is a fact that we’ll have to live with for the rest of our lives.  She’ll never be out of the woods completely.  We just hope and pray that it never comes back but in the meanwhile, make the best of today!  Speaking of the “new normal,” we were making plans the other night about things we’re doing or going to do in the future.  Patty stopped for a moment and said: “I’m not sure if I’m ready for normal.  I’m so used to taking things a day at a time, or even an hour at a time, that I really don’t know if I’m ready to go forward!”  I thought this was an unusual statement, but I realized that our life was on-hold for so long and on-hold under conditions where we weren’t sure what the future was or if there was even going to be a future that we had to take baby steps.  Going from baby steps to full strides had taken Patty a little back, but she’s fine now.  (At least that what she said!)

Patty told me that she still has moments when she gets scared.  Afraid that the cancer will return.  We’ve both heard that if the cancer does come back, it generally comes back with a vengeance.  She said “Whenever I get scared, I pray and it’s really helps.”  Patty’s relationship and closeness with God has grown over the past 10 months.  She has so much Faith!  Faith that God has a plan for her and for us.  Her faith is what has gotten her through this battle, not only during the difficult times, but throughout this fight.  My Faith is still a work in progress.  I guess it always will be but to be honest,  there are times that I feel guilty about that.  I’m trying…

Patty was recently asked to speak at the kickoff for the American Cancer Society Relay for Life at the end of March.  This is an honor for her to address other survivors and their loved ones about her experience with breast cancer and to motivate others to face the fight head on. I’m confident she’ll do an amazing job.  I’ll keep you posted on how this event goes.

Here’s our most recent challenge… As you know, we’ve been living in our little condo for over a year now.  Yep… 708 square feet!!!  The plan was to move into it from Northern California for a month or two then look for a larger home.  The home search was put on hold once Patty was diagnosed with breast cancer.  Now that she’s through the treatment phase and doing well, we’ve been looking for a new home.  We listed the condo for sale back in early January.  We finally had an offer last week, which we accepted and the condo is now officially in a 45 day escrow!  Yahoo!  I was having doubts that it would ever sell.  So now we’re under the gun to find a place to live.  We had actually put an offer on a great house, but… things didn’t work out due to some financing restrictions by the seller.  So we’re on the hunt again.  We must have looked at a dozed homes today to no avail.  Wow… I didn’t realize there were do many dumps in our price range!!!  We’re going out again with our agent in a couple of days.

My daughter’s (Kristi) due date was yesterday.  Yes… our third grandchild.  But, no such luck with this baby coming on time!  Kristi and her husband, Ryan, have been strong and haven’t found out what the sex of the baby is!  Since the baby is now officially late, my guess is it’s a boy.  (even though I’m hoping for a girl)   You know how lazy us boys can be.  Come on… hanging out in a warm comfy place.  Why would you want to leave?  So it’s a day by day thing now.   Believe me, there will be a picture posted on here once this child makes it’s presence known!

That’s it for now.  Again, I apologize for the delay in posting!

Introducing… Avery Nicole Cox!

Here’s the proud grandma holding our newest grandchild, Avery Nicole Cox!





This is what it’s all about!  The phone rang yesterday morning around 7:30 a.m.  Whenever the phone rings that early, Patty generally lays in bed and gives me privilege of answering.  Yesterday was unusual because the phone rang and she bounded out of bed like a woman on a mission.  It was like she knew what this call was about.  It was Nicole.  She announced that her water broke and Joey was out surfing and she couldn’t reach him.   Fortunately, Nicole lives less than ten minutes from us so we gladly zipped over to her house to give her support.  Once there, grandma (aka “Mom”) knew what to do to easy any apprehension Nicole may have had.  Everything was calm.  My job… to time the contractions.  I’ve done this before!  Joey  called shortly after we arrived and rushed home.   We followed them to the hospital and then, as with any birth, we were in the waiting game.  Of course Avery decided to take her time entering the new world.  Can you blam her?  She was all tucked away in a warm cosy place…

After a long day, Avery finally gave into Mother Nature and showed herself to the world! 

Patty was just beaming (as  you can see from this picture!)  She’s such proud grandma, times two!.  This is just what the doctor ordered for her!  Yesterday was an amazing day.  Whatever issues Patty and I are dealing with, suddenly disappeared!  It was  a great feeling, even if it was for one day!

Nicole is doing great and hopefully she and Joey got some rest last night because their lives will now change, forever!

Congratulations to Nic and Joey and also to the proud grandma!