Over the past 10 months, I’ve read several blogs from other husbands whose wives have been diagnosed with breast cancer. Each blog had something in common… the moment their wife finished their “treatment phase” the blogs immediately stopped. I was disappointed when they ended. I wanted to know more. More about how they were doing. What was going on after treatment? I told myself I wouldn’t do that with my blog. I would continue after the “treatment” phase. Now I understand why they stopped. Once treatment ends, your life changes… dramatically! It’s the “new normal.” Things almost get back to the way they used to be. To blog, it’s almost boring. It’s just that our life seems like it’s been controlled with a remote… we went so long on the “pause” button and now someone has hit “fast forward X-4!” It’s like we’re trying to make up for lost time! So, on that note, I apologize for getting a little relaxed with the blogging. I’ll do my best to keep this going. We still have a lot ahead of us. We’re not through with this just yet.
First and foremost, Patty is doing amazingly well! I can remember many days when Patty was going through her treatment that I never thought I’d see her to the point where she is today! She’s one tough woman! My guess is that she has pretty much 100% of her energy back. I can’t keep her down! She watches Avery four days a week. She tries to Jazzercise three times a week. She takes long walks nearly everyday and she’s starting to train for the Susan Komen 3-Day walk in November. It’s funny… I get home from work and I’m tired and just want to hang out at home. Not Patty! As she says, she is cooped up in the condo all day. She wants to go out!
We’ve learned that human body is amazing! Amazing in the sense of how it heals. As you are aware, the chemo really did a number on Patty. I can’t think of words to accurately describe what I witnessed Patty go through! Patty has told me that she didn’t realize how sick she was until she started feeling better. I don’t recall if I mentioned this in any previous post, but her incision from the mastectomy in late July had never completely healed, mainly because of the chemo. Here it is the end of February, six months since the mastectomy and 11 weeks since her last infusion and it’s finally nearly healed! She meets with the reconstruction surgeon every couple of weeks now and he’s pretty happy with her progress. He’s just waiting for the incision to completely heal so he can start the reconstruction process. It shouldn’t be too long. Now that she’s through the treatment phase, you can see changes in Patty every day. Her eyelashes and eyebrows were the first to grow and now they’re nearly back to normal. This was followed by the hair on her legs and then her head. She’s got a great layer of growth going on her head. It may not be long, but it’s thick!
We’re learning to deal with the “new normal” a little at a time. We’re not even sure what the “new normal” is! We do know that even though Patty has gotten a temporary clean bill of health, the threat of reoccurrence could happen at any time. This is a fact that we’ll have to live with for the rest of our lives. She’ll never be out of the woods completely. We just hope and pray that it never comes back but in the meanwhile, make the best of today! Speaking of the “new normal,” we were making plans the other night about things we’re doing or going to do in the future. Patty stopped for a moment and said: “I’m not sure if I’m ready for normal. I’m so used to taking things a day at a time, or even an hour at a time, that I really don’t know if I’m ready to go forward!” I thought this was an unusual statement, but I realized that our life was on-hold for so long and on-hold under conditions where we weren’t sure what the future was or if there was even going to be a future that we had to take baby steps. Going from baby steps to full strides had taken Patty a little back, but she’s fine now. (At least that what she said!)
Patty told me that she still has moments when she gets scared. Afraid that the cancer will return. We’ve both heard that if the cancer does come back, it generally comes back with a vengeance. She said “Whenever I get scared, I pray and it’s really helps.” Patty’s relationship and closeness with God has grown over the past 10 months. She has so much Faith! Faith that God has a plan for her and for us. Her faith is what has gotten her through this battle, not only during the difficult times, but throughout this fight. My Faith is still a work in progress. I guess it always will be but to be honest, there are times that I feel guilty about that. I’m trying…
Patty was recently asked to speak at the kickoff for the American Cancer Society Relay for Life at the end of March. This is an honor for her to address other survivors and their loved ones about her experience with breast cancer and to motivate others to face the fight head on. I’m confident she’ll do an amazing job. I’ll keep you posted on how this event goes.
Here’s our most recent challenge… As you know, we’ve been living in our little condo for over a year now. Yep… 708 square feet!!! The plan was to move into it from Northern California for a month or two then look for a larger home. The home search was put on hold once Patty was diagnosed with breast cancer. Now that she’s through the treatment phase and doing well, we’ve been looking for a new home. We listed the condo for sale back in early January. We finally had an offer last week, which we accepted and the condo is now officially in a 45 day escrow! Yahoo! I was having doubts that it would ever sell. So now we’re under the gun to find a place to live. We had actually put an offer on a great house, but… things didn’t work out due to some financing restrictions by the seller. So we’re on the hunt again. We must have looked at a dozed homes today to no avail. Wow… I didn’t realize there were do many dumps in our price range!!! We’re going out again with our agent in a couple of days.
My daughter’s (Kristi) due date was yesterday. Yes… our third grandchild. But, no such luck with this baby coming on time! Kristi and her husband, Ryan, have been strong and haven’t found out what the sex of the baby is! Since the baby is now officially late, my guess is it’s a boy. (even though I’m hoping for a girl) You know how lazy us boys can be. Come on… hanging out in a warm comfy place. Why would you want to leave? So it’s a day by day thing now. Believe me, there will be a picture posted on here once this child makes it’s presence known!
That’s it for now. Again, I apologize for the delay in posting!